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5 Ways to Encourage Your Quiet Child

Children are just as resilient as they are emotionally delicate.  You need to deal with them right and address any signs of  serious behavior situations. 

Quiet Child Boy Looks To Side From Mother

My 3-year-old daughter, Ada, and I were walking down the sidewalk chatting when I saw a neighbor sitting on his stoop up ahead. I could feel Ada tense in anticipation of what was coming next. “Hello, there!” he yelled as we approached. Ada—so chatty a moment before—scurried behind my legs and fell silent. As her quietness persisted, the man’s smile turned to a frown. I was torn between wanting to protect her need to disengage and assuring our neighbor that Ada wasn’t rude or afraid of him. More than that, I worried that encounters like these would shatter her confidence.

 

We often assume kids who are quiet or introverted—as opposed to shy, a word some experts use to describe those who have true social anxiety—are unsure of themselves. “Neurologically, they’re just wired differently than louder children and react more positively to less stimulating environments,” says Susan Cain, author of Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts. But even in challenging settings, your quiet child can practice her social skills and learn to navigate our loud world more easily. These expert tips will help her break out.

Change Your Language

Quiet children may receive unwitting messages—even from their parents—that there’s something wrong with their reserved behavior. “By saying, ‘Sorry, he’s shy,’ to another adult who’s trying unsuccessfully to engage him, you imply to your child that we see his quietness as a negative thing,” says Erica Reischer, Ph.D., author of What Great Parents Do: 75 Simple Strategies for Raising Kids Who Thrive. She suggests saying something like, “He’s feeling quiet right now.” This acknowledges how your child feels in the moment and that he may not always feel that way. In fact, he might be back to his talkative self once he’s home. By creating an environment of acceptance within your own family, you’ll give your child the freedom to hold on to who he truly is.

Open a Dialogue

Check in with your child after situations that have made her go silent, like Ada’s moment with our neighbor. “Ask, ‘What happened when that man said hello to us? Did it make you feel uncomfortable?’” suggests Heidi Kiebler-Brogan, a licensed professional counselor. These kinds of conversations can help both of you better understand her behavior. Then, you can offer some tools to help her the next time. If she balks at the idea of saying “Hi,” for example, you can suggest that she wave or even just smile. This will also help her make the inevitable transition to all of the interactions that lie ahead in school and other activities.

Practice Socializing

Any of us can feel overwhelmed in a loud or an unfamiliar environment, says Cain. But while adults can usually muster the poise to muddle through it, little kids are still honing those skills. “My number-one strategy is for kids to practice, practice, practice,” says Maria Zimmitti, Ph.D., president of Georgetown Psychology Associates, in Washington, D.C. She says that gently introducing a quiet child to social situations will allow him to work gradually toward …

 

Read more: http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/advice/how-to-encourage-your-quiet-child/

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